Sorry I've been gone for so long, I've been a
bit busy in the last 6-8 months. My dad was diagnosed with lung cancer – guess
it’s a forgone conclusion when you smoke for 62 years. Fast as my dad was (and
he’s up there in the super dad category) he couldn’t dodge that bullet. When I first started my research he would
just nod at me in his fatherly way and pass by with his coffee, as he headed to
his man-cave. Later when the cancer took
a tighter grip, he’d sit and watch me as I wrestled with my research. Just
knowing he was around to answer questions seemed to make him feel part of what
I was doing. Gradually he lost the endurance to do even that. Dad was there
when I made my first phone calls, and started building up the material on each
rider. I’d get all excited and tell him about my new discoveries … He on the
other hand would recall the names and exploits of riders he knew, (which while
interesting wasn’t all that helpful as
none of them died during their careers) but it was something we
shared.
During one
of his last stays at hospice, he looked over at me and randomly told me to
“finish it” … I didn’t know what he was
on about and then he said … “the
jockeys” At that point I hadn’t touched anything for months. I was stunned that
amongst the pain, and there was lots of pain by then, that he thought about my
project. I promised him that I would
keep going … and I will. This is the
first time I’m doing it without him. I miss him so much and I can only hope that
each of these riders had someone who loved them and grieved for them the way my
siblings and I are grieving for our dad. I intend to make sure our generations
don’t forget my dad either, I couldn’t have wished for a better Dad, a
better friend and a greater inspiration.
Eugene Alexander Chan
: 16 February 1930 – 19 March 2012
My Dad being cheeky to the camera
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